Struggling with intimacy issues in my relationship - advice needed
Hi everyone, I'm a 28-year-old guy and I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months now. We've known each other for a few years and had an on-and-off thing before getting serious. I'm posting because I'm having some issues with intimacy and I'm not sure how to approach them.
Basically, I've never really felt fully satisfied during sex or other intimate activities with my girlfriend or previous partners. I can only really get there through self-stimulation. I've been pretending to be more into it than I am because I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I'm starting to feel guilty about not being honest.
It's not that she's doing anything wrong - she's attentive and tries to do things I like. But I just don't get that intense feeling of pleasure or release that I hear other people talk about. Sometimes I barely feel anything at all. I also find that I rarely feel super turned on or lustful, even though I care about her deeply.
I'm wondering if I should tell her what's going on. On one hand, I think being honest could help us work on it together. But I'm worried it will really hurt her feelings or make her not trust me anymore because of the pretending. I also don't know if talking about it would actually change anything physically.
Has anyone dealt with something similar or have advice on how to handle this? I want to enjoy intimacy more but I'm feeling stuck and unsure what to do next. Thanks in advance for any insights.
