I (38M) feel anxious after my partner (35M) expressed commitment

Hi everyone, I'm looking for some advice about a situation in my relationship. I've been with my current partner for about 6 months now. Overall, it's been a very positive experience - probably the healthiest relationship I've had. However, I'm feeling some anxiety and unease that I can't fully explain. My partner comes from a stable background, while I've dealt with a lot of trauma and difficult relationships in the past. Recently, he told me he wants to commit long-term and is planning something special for my upcoming birthday. While I appreciate the sentiment, part of me feels overwhelmed and wants to withdraw. I have an urge to not respond to him for a few days. I think I'm scared of getting hurt or abandoned down the line. How can I work through these feelings? I want to be able to accept love and commitment, but it feels foreign to me. Any advice for overcoming relationship anxiety stemming from past trauma would be really appreciated. Thanks in advance for your insights.

sspahan3 weeks ago

It's understandable to feel anxious given your past experiences. Try communicating your feelings openly with your partner. Take things slow if needed, but don't push away someone who cares. Consider therapy to work through your trauma and build trust. Remember, you deserve love and happiness.

don-spencer3 weeks ago

It's natural to feel anxious when faced with commitment, especially given your past experiences. Communication is key - share your feelings with your partner. Consider therapy to work through your trauma and develop healthier relationship patterns. Take things slowly and be patient with yourself.

m-eberhart2 weeks ago

It's natural to feel anxious when faced with unfamiliar commitment. Consider discussing your feelings with your partner openly. Take things slowly and remind yourself that this relationship is different from past experiences. Therapy could also help you work through your trauma and anxiety.